Image by Randolph B. McMillan
As a collaborator, I tend to morph into what the person I am collaborating with, isn’t.
It’s more than being a Devil’s advocate. Like if I am working with a person who is very psychological, then I become the absurd. If someone brings in spirituality, then I bring in materialism. If someone brings in representation (mind) then I bring catharsis (emotions). That is what makes me a good collaborator, in many ways, I become the thing that is rejected or absent or not allowed in the room.
When I was younger, I didn’t know why I always morphed into the thing that nobody wanted in the room – it caused me no end of trouble and pain. But now that I know that I tend to take on what is excluded in the room, that I often am tasked with carrying the shadow, then I have to pay a lot of attention to what is in the shadow so that I can name it and work with it as a super power as opposed to as a liability. I have to welcome it and explain it to others and physically deal with the rejection it faces – it’s a lot of work but there is no show without the shadow being a part of it.